Saturday, August 18, 2007

Can you spoil a newborn?

Ever since Ella has been born she has been held, I think she has been laid down a total of five times. Every night after I get her to sleep I go to lay her down in her crib, and it never fails she wakes up and starts crying. I need some advice. She will sleep for hours in my arms, but not in her crib. Just look at her cute little face, I can't stand to just let her cry. My husband thinks she is just spoiled, but I always thought you couldn't spoil a newborn. I have been sleeping with her in the recliner at night, and am not getting much sleep. I don't care if you are a mother or not, if you have any advice I would love to hear it.




8 comments:

michellep said...

Well, I tend to agree with you Shalie. Now, I know I don't have any kids of my own yet, but from some of my infant and child development classes, we learned it's pretty much true that you can't spoil a newborn--they don't know yet how to "manipulate" people to get what they want. But then again, you have to take care of yourself. So I think you need to be creative and go with your instincts. After all, you and Sita love her and know her better than anyone. I can tell already you are awesome parents!

Camie said...

Shalie, I know exactly how you feel. Thats just how drew was. We held her all the time and David always told me she was spoiled but I just couldn't help myself. As she got older and still didn't sleep I was angry with myself for doing that but I think all first mothers do, I can assure you it is going to be very different with this next one. I am so glad you and sita have a blog. I loved his post about Grandpa.

Nielsen Family said...

I'm not a mother yet but I have watched it happen when baby learns to only sleep with his or her mother and then 5 years down the road you could still be sleeping with your kids instead of Sita. My neighbors back home did it and the oldest is 13 and the youngest is 5 and they are just getting back to sleeping with each other...you have to take care of you relationship with Sita too.

Heidi said...

What a cute picture of Ella. She is such a sweetie! Oh my gosh, I miss you guys! We are officially in St. Geoge now. You better be coming down soon so we can see you. About your blog...No, you can't spoil newborns! But, if you are holding her while she sleeps that is all she's going to be used to. It will only get harder and harder for her to sleep in her bed. It is okay to let them cry. I know it will drive you crazy, but she will eventually get used to sleeping by herself. You will know what's best though. We really need to stay in touch now that we live so far apart. Love you guys and hope everything is going well!!

Jonathan, Kaity & Halle said...

Ok I need to come and see this little bug! She is SO freaking cute. You live in Salt Lake, we live in Salt Lake.... Let's make it happen!

... said...

Shalie- Okay I am a total blog stalker, Anyways, your little girl is so precious. . .By the way this is Krystal (Wright) Sorensen. And that post by your husband was so cute~ I am not a mother so I have no advice about babies I just know from my sisters, down the road it could get worse. . .

Anonymous said...

I agree with what people have been saying...if you hold her when she sleeps that will be what she's used to. Shelly said it right when she mentioned to take care of Sita too. Adam has friends in our ward that they always complain to us that their wives turned into mothers and no longer act as wives...it's a tough transition and I am sure you're doing fine.

Quists said...

Hi there! We check your blog all the time because Ella is SO cute. Our baby boy, Hazen, is 7 weeks old today, and he is the same way with sleeping. Here's what we were told. Up until 3 months old, you can't spoil a new born. You could hold them constantly and they won't develop a habit out of it. After 3 months old though, they will start to get used to it. At least that is what we were told. Whether or not it is true, who knows. But, we continue to sleep with Hazen at night and just enjoy it while we can. Ella is SO cute!